First comes love, then comes marriage...

I'm getting to that age where when I check out men, I look at their ring fingers. I never thought "getting to that age" would mean twenty years old. I have multiple friends (all within a few years of my age) that are getting married or are already married. I might just be looking at their ring fingers because I tend to date older men... but there's got to be more to it than that.

I'm also getting to that age where the men I start dating aren't married for a reason. If they're in their mid to late twenties and are moderately attractive and hold a good job, it generally means that there is something else wrong with them. Often times they are serial adulterers, drug addicts, drunks, or living at home with their parents. To me, this train of thought is counterintuitive but I still do it. Allow me to explain.

The type of man that I would date probably isn't the biggest fan of marriage or is in no rush to make himself a part of it. So if he is in his mid to late twenties and isn't married that should be exactly what I'm looking for - should all the other pieces come together. But instead of seeing it that way, I always ask myself "what is so wrong with this guy that he isn't married already?"

Maybe I have such a confusing outlook because I think of marriage as a fate worse than death most times. The idea of getting married tends to give me nightmares... but then again, I am only twenty. I can't pick (and keep) a hair color for more than a month at a time, let alone pick a life partner. So maybe something is wrong with the men who are married in their mid to late twenties instead of the ones who aren't...

Divorcees and people who have been married multiple times tend to have a higher rate of psychological disorders than single or widowed people. Maybe I am doing something right here!